Albert Einstein once said, “doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results is the definition of insanity”. For the longest time, I was repeating the same actions day in and day out. I felt stuck and depressed. I decided to make some major changes in my life and divorce what was no longer working for me.
I divorced the late nights, which would leave me sleep-deprived and without energy. I would stay up late partying and using excuses like; I only live once, or I got to live while I am young. I would stay up all night playing video games, saying to myself just one more repeatedly until the sun was starting to rise.
I divorced caffeine, which I used to give myself “energy”. When I would work late or stay up all night, I would drink energy drinks. These toxic drinks are terrible for the body, they create a ton of stress (this is where the energy comes from) and then they leave you drained afterward. I would drink sodas all the time sometimes 2-3 a day especially when I was drinking whiskey and cokes.
I divorced the toxic alcohol, that I was in an abusive relationship with. I would use alcohol to sedate myself and make myself numb to the pain I was feeling. I would always have an excuse to drink. I would say I was exhausted and needed a drink, even though the alcohol was only going to drain my energy. I would say I had a long day at work and wanted to relax, even though drinking alcohol was putting extra stress on my body and preventing it from resting. I deemed alcohol necessary to have fun, whenever I was at a gathering or party if I didn’t have a drink it did not feel right. I would spend most of my money on alcohol and then have no money for more important things. When I was drinking, I would always go out of my way to get unhealthy, greasy food.
I divorced junk/fast food; it was holding me back from being the healthy man I was meant to be. I didn’t give what I was eating and ingesting a second thought, I just wanted it to taste good. I would eat tons of candy, chips, fast food, and other garbage that no one should be ingesting. I wasted my money on food that drained my energy, damaged my body, and in the end continued my cycle of negativity.
I divorced the negative thinking; I would always doubt myself when I was trying to do something. “I don’t have enough experience”, “What if they don’t like me”, “What is so amazing about me”, and “I am not good at that” were common phrases I would say. Before I had even started anything, I had lost due to my negative mindset. I missed out on many opportunities and relationships/friendships with this stinkin thinkin.
I divorced the porn in my life, that was holding me back from being closer with my wife. Porn is getting worse and worse, and it creates a divide between you and reality. Porn gives a dopamine rush, allowing the person to feel sedated and relaxed after. I was addicted to porn for a while, and I am glad I divorced it from my life.
I divorced the toxic products in my life. Things like fluoride toothpaste, non-stick pans, aluminum-containing deodorant, toxic hand soaps, sanitizers, microwaves, aluminum foil, plastic wrap, hair gels, toxic shampoos/conditioners, and so much more. These things all have a negative effect because they increase the toxic load inside the body.
I divorced the toxic water in my life. Many times, I would drink water from one of the disposable water bottles. These water bottles leach plastic into the water, which is terrible for the body. Even if they didn’t leach the plastic into the bottles, the water itself inside most of them is not good for you. These waters have an acidic PH level and are just tap water that is bottled. I divorced tap water because there is plenty of things in the tap water that burdens our bodies. Depending on where you live chlorine and, fluoride may be added to the water. Not to mention medical drugs or other harmful things inside the water that were not able to be filtered out.
I divorced the hours and hours of tv watching. For the longest time, entertainment was a higher priority than my dreams and goals. I would binge-watch seasons, and then complain I do not have enough time to do the things I want to do. I was sabotaging myself because it seemed easier than working towards what I wanted in life.
I divorced my cell phone. I was glued to my phone; all the time and it created some major problems for me. I would get distracted easily and was out of touch with reality. I always used to carry my phone on me and leave it in my pocket every day. I started to feel vibrations even when there were no vibrations, my mind was addicted to it.
I divorced my worse self, so I could marry my best self.
I married clean, pure water that my body loves. I filter my water to rid it of chlorine, and then I distill that water to get fluoride and everything else out of it. I then add back in some Celtic sea salt to give it the nutrients it needs and the correct PH level for my body. I feel much better, and I enjoy my water now. It has a different flavor than it had before it tastes pure, and I really enjoy it. I use this water for everything; to wash my face, brush my teeth, cook my food, etc...
I married products that worked for me instead of against me. I use toothpaste, deodorant, soaps, and shampoos that work great, and do not have harmful chemicals in them. I heat my food on the stove, in the oven, or a stainless-steel air fryer/toaster oven. I keep my food in glass containers and avoid plastic bags and plastic wrap.
I married positive thinking, and now I always give myself the benefit of the doubt. I know that I can succeed at anything I put my mind to because I no longer hold myself back from being my best. I tell myself self “I have enough experience”, “They are going to like me”, “I am enough”, “I will be great”, etc…
I married organic nutrient-rich food. Everything I eat now is natural, and toxin-free. If I buy something from the store and it has a label, I read the label to make sure there is nothing toxic inside the product. I look for the certified organic label because I know the organic food has more nutrients and none of the pesticides, fungicides, and herbicides inside of it.
I married a great sleep cycle; I get to bed no later than 10:30 PM and wake up before 8:00 AM. I have much more energy and I sleep better with the changes.
I married a healthy amount of exercise. I now take the time to work out consistently, even if it is just 10 minutes. I give myself rest days when my body needs it and I make sure I stretch the appropriate muscles. I am working my way to the body I want without creating unnecessary stress on my body.
I married my dreams and goals. I now make the time to work on my dreams and goals as they are a very high priority for me. I no longer spend hours and hours watching tv, instead I read books and work on my business. I invest in myself because I know it is the greatest investment that we can make in life.
I married the love of my life, Maddie Dagenais. Our love and connection have grown since then, and it continues to grow every day. I give her my full attention and love and accept all her love in return. She has joined me on my journey to divorce the negative and together we marry the positive things we want in our lives.
I married my best self. I want to be the best man I can be not only for me but for my future kids. I love myself completely, and I take care of myself. I no longer feel depressed and stuck, instead, I am feeling more alive than ever and am taking strides towards my dreams and goals!
I highly recommend you do the same, especially if you are feeling like I once was. You are not stuck, but you do need to make some changes. What do you need to divorce and marry in your life? Remember the best investment you can make is an investment in yourself!